It should come as no surprise that the subject of this book is of course, love. More specifically, Alberoni deals with those all-too-brief and utterly captivating moments when one first falls in love. He attempts to unlock all the rather bizarre and, sometimes, completely diotic, forces that drive our behaviour in this frenzied state. For those lucky enough to be experiencing the first signs of true love, I doubt that this book will do the sensations they experience any justice, simply because words are no match for the real thing.

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An informal association of academics and experts doing work in this field meet regularly at the center and occasionally publish joint studies on the subject.

Falling in love and loving The experience of falling in love divides what was once united and unites what was divided. At the same time this new structure generates the new community that we perceive radiating out around us, founded on and legitimized by the absolute right and value of our love; indeed, every other part of our life is reorganized around it.

This reorganization does not happen instantly but is a gradual process. I love you - A theory of love We fall in love when we are ready to change, when we want to discard a past, worn-out experience, and have the energy and strength to begin a new exploration and change our lives.

We fall in love when we are ready to use untried abilities, explore new worlds and fulfil dreams and desires we had renounced. We fall in love when we are deeply dissatisfied with the present and possess the inner fire to begin a new stage in our existence. For falling in love to take place, therefore, there must be something amiss with the present, a slow accumulation of tension, a great deal of vital energy and then, finally, a spark to trigger it all off. Falling really in love follows on from a crisis in existing relationships, from an impression of having gone wrong and having got caught up in something unreal and false, while feeling acute nostalgia for a truer, intenser and more real kind of life.

Today, his new work, Sex and Love , marks another revolutionary turning point, giving for the first time a sense and order to the chaotic tangle of clashing and concording facets of love and sex. Alberoni systematically explores the full range of sexual and love relationships: from anonymous sex to amorous intimacy, from the frenzied coupling of two bodies to the union of two souls, from violent sex to utmost physical tenderness, and from the most rampant promiscuity to the most exclusive and faithful partnership.

In revealing the primordial bases for the way in which men and women interact, Alberoni takes an unflinching look at our secret motivations and contradictory desires, as well as at the facts we would prefer to ignore and the thoughts we had rather not admit to having. The book features an engaging and innovative mix of life stories and first-person accounts taken from literature or interviews. Each individual voice is intentionally left uncensored, and the language shifts back and forth from the brutal and obscene to the ardent and passionate, or to the painfully nostalgic if not poetically sublime.

The reader is guided through the myriad of forms that sexual and love relationships take, a survey which provides true-to-life examples of impersonal and personal sex, erotic friendship, infatuation, and the galvanizing experience of falling in love, as well as of the subsequent love relationships that may either end or endure.

The reader finds him or herself being swept away by a fast current of evoked and revealed desires, arousal, pleasure, ecstasy, joy, dilemmas, regrets, suffering, and hope. We say it, but what does it mean? To capture the essence of this only partially-charted emotional territory, at once familiar and enigmatic to us all, we need to think in a new way.

Admittedly, the rule in most scholarly work is to build up gradually to a revolutionary definition, but I think that to do so would less than useful here. I want to entice you to think in a new way straight off. I love you - A theory of love There are many kids of love, like a mother's, a brother or sister's, or a friend's.

But here we will be talking about the passionate, erotic kind of love which exists betwee lovers, between a husband and wife, i. We will be trying to understand how it begins, what forms it takes, how it develops, what problems it may meet, and why it ends or endures. It is the kind of love that can grow slowly out of friendship or explode at first sight.

It can be a passing infatuation that burns itself out in a few days or months, or it can last for years, even a lifetime. It can be consist in torrid sex or sweet tenderness; it may never develop beyond unsatisfied passion or it may lead to marriage.

It can turn into an idyll or a conflict, fade away into routine, or carry along with it all the vibrance and freshness of its early stages. Falling in love Center Piazza Duomo 21 - Milano. More information, regarding either foreign publishers or the specific content of each work, can be found on the official website www.

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He was a board member and senior board member chairman of RAI , the Italian state television network, from to Alberoni was among the few regular front page writers of Corriere della Sera , Italy's most popular newspaper, which published his articles from to Although Alberoni claims he was a model student and real perfectionist at school, he admits he did not like the military-like discipline imposed on schoolchildren by the Fascist regime. According to his autobiography he was a born leader, who always invented games and adventures for the group of boys who usually gathered around him. Because there weren't any books in his house, he discovered the pleasures of reading only after the end of Second World War in Reading took most of his afternoons at the City Library, his favoured subjects being history and philosophy. Alberoni studied at the Liceo Scientifico, and then moved to Pavia to study medicine where he graduated.



But falling in love is something that we all do: we can all vouch for our own experiences; we can tell our story, can speak. Falling in love is, first of all, a transgression. But, while ""Love does not come into being to lose children. It is ""the dream of the West"" whether we speak of Christianity the Nativity, Christmas, the Resurrection or Marxism ""revolution, renewal, the end of history"". Thus, while we cannot make the nascent state ""our permanent residence,"" the experience of falling in love still holds us.


Falling in Love by Francesco Alberoni


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